Rob and Me Stuff

Oh and maybe some widowhood. Rob and me tend to get caught up in that death, grief and rebuilding thing from time to time. Getting back to the memoir – among other things – has brought it to forefront again.

But the impetus behind our story ending up over at DoubleXX began with the idea some people have that marriage changes a person. Which I won’t dispute because living life does, should really, change us and hopefully in a positive way. But Emma Gilbey Keller writes an on-going series for doubleX about women and how issues affect, direct and sometimes redirect their lives. She asked readers if they had changed for marriage. Actively changed something about themselves in order to make a union work, and I responded. She countered with a request.

Would I write about being widowed and falling in love again?

And naturally I said, yes, I’d love to.

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You can read the article at doubleX right now. In fact, I’d be honored if you would.

5 responses to “Rob and Me Stuff

  1. it’s a great article – story well told, even though i’d read it before…

    the question behind it? pretty important. when i had my first kid, my sister-in-law (half of a textbood ‘yuppie’ couple in the mid-1980’s) was pregnant with her first. she asked me “did having the baby change your relationship?” Seems she and her husband had made it a goal to keep their fundamental relationship unchanged… i was sleep deprived, in love with my family, and just couldn’t help laughing out loud! of course it changes the relationship!

    to think that you can commit to any relationship and ‘stay your own course’ seems a bit naieve…

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