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I am seldom the recipient of blogging honors and I am deeply gratified when I am. Recently a fellow blogger and commenter here, Dawn of She is Too Fond of Books, generously bestowed honors on all of her readers which I thought was a very cool thing to do.

you-dont-sayThis is given to people who leave “super comments.” I try to comment when I drop by a blog but I am not as prolific of late as I can be.

proximidadeThe Proximidade Award declares “This blog invests and believes in the Proximity – nearness in space, time and relationships. These blogs are exceedingly charming. These kind bloggers aim to find and be friends. They are not interested in prizes or self-aggrandizement! Our hope is that when the ribbons of these prizes are cut, even more friendships are propagated. Please give more attention to these writers!”

One Lovely Blog award is just what it claims to be.one-lovely-blog-award

Because I love Dawn’s idea of awarding to all who read (even if you have never been here before today), I am asking my gentle readers to take these awards and award them generously to others. Blogging awards shouldn’t be about popularity. They should be about promoting community.


There is really not a lot going on. It’s Friday. I have a short story nearly ready to send out in order to catch the tail end of On Spec‘s current reading period before getting back to the novel.

Why the break for a short story? Well, first of all, the idea for this one finally fell together after months of banging around in my brain and two, I met with one of the On Spec editors at the conference a few weeks ago, and she asked if I had anything to send in based on the query letter I showed her for the novel. It’s nothing but net if I could get a short accepted before I head to Willamette to pitch the novel, and nothing is lost if I don’t.

I did finally get signed up for the August writers’ conference in Oregon. I have a pitching session with an agent even though I am treating it as a learning experience and if something comes of it  – bonus. Rob has booked off quite a bit of time around the conference, so we are going to camp and vacation on either side.

And no, he hasn’t heard on the job offer. He was supposed to meet with his immediate supervisor on Wednesday, but the boss called in sick and has been out the remainder of the week. 

Moving has been on my mind. I convinced Rob to finish the reno upstairs, painting the bedrooms, building a walk-in closet in our room and laying new hardwood floor. All things that were on the agenda, but the continued cool weather and the possibility we could be moving by summer’s end and thus having to sell, mean that this stuff needs to get done now. The outdoor projects need a bit warmer weather.

So the upstairs is all but empty. I had forgotten how much I love space. In my old house, I had almost no furniture. Drove visitors a bit batty, but I loved it. Near empty rooms with nothing on the walls is peaceful with possibility.

I got a letter from Will’s mom. The things we put on his grave last summer are gone. Don’t really know what to do with the information, and was a bit upset by her contacting me about it. I even wrote a long blog piece that I decided not to publish after talking with Rob about it. He pointed out that there is nothing that can be done about ties to the past and their intrusion into now on occasion, so there is no reason to work oneself up about it. It happens and you deal.

I will send her a “thanks” with some pictures of the child and leave it at that.

Ashtanga yoga is kicking the crap out of my old, neglected muscle groups. I also found a new Hatha instructor who is into strength building along with flexibility. End result is that I am very sore but better than yesterday.

What else? I am reading like a fiend. And that is about it. 

Sorry about neglecting the replies to comments. I am still not reconnected with the blogosphere so much and I am planning a summer hiatus, but I will let you know when that begins.

P.S. The pen name is settled. The site is constructed. I will launch at the end of summer.


Nothing like the promise of being interesting to rise the bar to stratospherically impossible heights, eh?

And I will disappoint utterly because I am not interesting and for the life of me can’t figure out why anyone reads this beyond those of you who are friends. My life is a bit out of the ordinary, I suppose, and perhaps I am a tad outspoken, but I am not a celebrity or humorist or guru. I began this as an outlet and continued with the misguided intention of providing hope and a real example for others who’d lost a spouse and now I simply write about my life and aspirations, such as it is and they are.

I ran across a link on Twitter courtesy of Guy Kawasaki of Alltop about how one goes about being interesting as a blogger. 

It got me wondering. What do you like about this blog? Seriously. I want to know.