Dating While Widowed: A Valentine Day Quickie

I put this vid up on my FaceBook page today for Rob, my sweetly amazing husband.

It’s always been a favorite Valentine’s tune. Even before I met him.

But, I’d never seen the vid before and was a bit surprised by the headstone and rose at the end. However, it actually clarified something … for me anyway … because though now this song says “Rob” to me … once … it applied to Will, my late husband, and before him it was just a wish … attached to wind in hopes that one day the song would remind me of someone who loved me as much as I loved him.

The same song but three different me’s. Three very different times of my life. But still me at the core and sentiment of the song never changes even though I have and life, of course, has as well.

And to me, this is a reminder that living/loving in the moment is what truly matters.

Anthropomorphic Valentine, circa 1950–1960

Image via Wikipedia

Sure I remember moments past/lost but I don’t live. Now is really all there is.

The heart is a surprisingly elastic and terribly practical organ with amazing capacity. To quote Shakespeare,

“My bounty is as boundless as the sea, my love as deep; the more I give to thee, the more I have, for both are infinite.”

Happy Valentine’s Day.

 

7 responses to “Dating While Widowed: A Valentine Day Quickie

  1. Pingback: Dating While Widowed: New Relationships are NOT a Form of Grief Therapy | anniegirl1138

  2. Hmm, Valentine’s always comes and goes with no notice. This is the first year since my husband’s death that I noticed Valentines Day. Despite the constant reminders that I am a social outsider, my heart and soul felt warm and glad at the day. It was nice.

    Um, wanted to let you know about a Hestia update… your daughter might like it. She probably knows all about Hestia already, but she might find some fun ideas in my blog, or may want to add some to it!

    • I did see it b/c I have a subscription, so it comes to my mailbox. She isn’t as versed in the Roman gods but the second Percy Jackson series has been instructive, but I think she finds the more hippy like Greeks closer to her liking. She knows about aqueducts from school – of all places.

        • The entry was inspired by what you shared about Hestia being Dee’s fave. Maybe my blogs won’t be academic forever, but it seems that if I want to arrive at what the myths actually represented in history, academic rigour is required in order to suss it out. Hopefully this will lead to an exciting, sweeping, epic, poetic, saga that captures everyone’s imagination. We live in hope!

  3. Hi,
    It’s the first time I have seen the video and heard the song, it is very nice indeed, I can see why you like it so much.

    A wonderful quote by Shakespeare.
    Happy Valentines Day. 😀

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