Monthly Archives: July 2008


This will sound strange, but I forgot my husband’s 27th wedding anniversary. Yes, that’s right. His wedding anniversary, not ours. Ours was last month. June 26th and it was our first.

Rob and Shelley were married in July. It was a hot day. He was hung-over from partying a bit too hardy the night before. The JP got lost and was late. And the band played the wrong song for the first dance. But overall it was a beautiful wedding.

I have been to the very spot where they wed. Met nearly all the principal players of the day. Seen the photos. Heard the stories. In some ways it has become a part of my history too. Not all that much different from the ancestors I claim on my dad’s side despite my being adopted and not really related to those people at all. Yet my Grandma Cox told me all the stories on those many Memorial Day jaunts around the various cemeteries around the Old Monastery where my Granddad and her family are laid to rest. Those stories connected me in the same way Rob connects me to his past and to Shelley with his stories.

All weirdness I am sure to anyone who is not widowed and remarried/recoupled but the way of it none the less.

Happy Anniversary then to Rob. It was a happy day that led to years and years more and should be remembered as such.


Tag surfer. Totally recommend it.

Found this as I lay for a second day sick and mucousy and it spoke to me. Didn’t hurt that Damyanti had posted earlier that day on much the same thing.

I’ll be gone for the rest of the month – minimum – so aside from Monday Meme’s which are done through the month, and a few other posts I blogged ahead, I won’t post again until I’ve finished some writing projects.

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Hope to see you when I get back.


My father built me a sandbox when I was about three years old. It was deep and wide enough that I could sit right in it and still have room for the Tonka dump truck and a small collection of buckets and little metal cars.

I would dig and build for hours, constructing roads along the mountains and in the valleys of the lands my imagination and willingness to get dirty produced.

When Katy developed her inevitable affection for sand, digging and piling, I decided to get her a sandbox. I had wanted her to have one that was at least big enough to get in. However, I had only a small trunk to haul it and the only thing I could fit was one of those little turtle boxes that you see at Target or Toys R Us. The downside of being the only parent and a financially strapped one at that – no SUV.

I gave the turtle box away last summer before we moved. Katy had out-grown it physically and I thought we could just get her a new one once we were in our new home.

Last summer though we contented ourselves with the sand at the park.

This summer with renovations progressing at a fairly impressive rate (my opinion only – my husband is less pleased), the idea of a sandbox in the back yard came up again. I suggested buying one. With the truck, I reasoned, it would be easier to get one that was much bigger than the old turtle.

Rob was having none of that. He would build a sandbox.

Great, I thought. BabyDaughter would have a sandbox like the one I remembered and loved so much. Who doesn’t want her child to have the same wonderful memories of childhood?

The box is pink. Not as large as mine was but my dad was building a sandbox with three children (eventually four) in mind and Rob had just BabyDaughter in mind. With typical Virgo forethought and precision, he first selected and prepared the area where the box would rest. This meant clearing out hedges, transplanting bushes and when this was done it lead to the expansion of the garden.

The box was built quickly but in order to satisfy Rob’s need for long life, it required several coats of primer and then paint. He also wanted the lid the be tight and secure which meant hinges and latches. And of course, everything had to be level.

I think he began work on the sandbox at the beginning of June and finished just after we returned from holiday after July 4th. MidKid helped, as she has been doing with much of the yard reworking and siding project.

Towards the end of last week, I was given the task of final leveling and with MidKid’s help placed the box on its foundations.

We’d underestimated the amount of sand needed, but BabyDaughter was thrilled. We’d purchased a few accessories when we had the chance to visit Target in the U.S. (they simply have nothing up here that even compares with this type of retail) and with bucket, dump truck and bulldozer, she and MidKid christened the sandbox.

MidKid and BabyDaughter in the pink sandbox their Daddy built.

MidKid and BabyDaughter in the pink sandbox their Daddy built.

I wanted to sit and play myself, but I need to cut my nails first. I am so not okay with sand under the nails anymore.