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For those Edmontonian’s still searching for the perfect Mother’s Day gift, there are still great seats available for the Sylvia Browne show. I first heard that she would be further traumatizing the bereaved from a widow whose son attends the children’s group at Pilgrim’s Hospice with our daughter. She really wanted to go and had registered herself in a contest to win a free ticket. Ms. Browne generally doesn’t sweep the audience à la  John Edwards in search of the perfect cold reading victim. She has people picked out in advance and spends more time spewing her version of the afterlife than purposefully making contact. Although if there were an afterlife in the Christian sense of the word, it probably would recoil from her tentacles, hissing. 

I have seen Ms.Browne on the Montel Williams show. A repellent personality, brusque and quite unsympathetic, I didn’t know whether to be horrified or amused by her dismissive replies to the queries of obliviously distressed loved ones. She told one person that the dead don’t care about what happens to those that they left behind in anything but the most abstract terms. They “forget about us” because they are “in heaven and too happy”. Wow, there’s Christianity and all its virtues at its finest. Tough luck to those left behind ’cause I made it in. See ya. She has thrown some of the more fragile a bone of assurance that the deceased didn’t suffer, but that’s about the extent of the milk of human kindness that runs through her shriveled soul.

She and John Edwards both make me sick with horror for the most part. Playing people’s deepest pain for profit. Believing what I do about our souls and their journeys makes me particularly contemptuous, but hopeful that both of these truly evil people get a good dressing down and a century or more of remedial training before they are set loose down on earth among human beings again.

I understand the need to know that a deceased loved one is safe and happy and to have the chance to exchange unspoken words, but most people could do that as easily for themselves rather than waste their money and expose themselves to charlatans like Browne. I tried to ask the young widow at hospice group if she had tried talking to her husband herself and she assured me that she did all the time, but I think she is still too raw and traumatized to listen and look for his reassurance. I was about as far out as she when I finally was able to see and feel my late husband’s little incursions into our life. Perhaps it will be the same for her. I hope so. 

 


I am a registered blogger at BlogHer, a large almost entirely women-only site that kind of collects the various female bloggers in cyber-space and houses them under a single “roof”. I don’t blog there – yet – still thinking about it, but I really would like to attend their annual conference which this summer is in San Francisco. Last year’s was in Chicago, I think, but Rob and I had only been married just shy of a month, Katy and I were still adjusting from the big move north, and there was that sticky thing about not being able to travel freely back and forth across the border without Rob as I wasn’t a permanent resident yet.

This July I will have my PR card. In fact I should have my final approval within the next week or so as the FBI very kindly put an expedite on my fingerprint/background check (and as I suspected I have never been arrested) which my caseworker at CIC will have this Monday. After that it is (I assume) stamping and mailing me the final approval. With that I can apply for the cards for Katy and I. Once again, freedom of movement. Not that I was restricted all that much. Canada is an overly large place. However the mere idea that I couldn’t get to the States and back on my own felt confining for some reason. This development means, of course, that I could go to Blogher ’08 in SF this July. It would come pretty close on the tails of our return from Iowa (family business), but it’s doable. It’s also an expense. Rob figures about $2000 dollars between airfare, hotel, and conference fees. My tax refund will more than cover it, but I hate to be frivolous with that money. Is this conference something that could be beneficial for me as a writer?

Pro and Con?

Okay, pro is that I was recently accepted as a writer for an online activist site called Moms Speak Up. It’s not a compensated position but it’s also not self-publishing. It is a chance to write about things that matter to me. Issues that affect our lives and futures. A few of the scheduled sessions dovetail with the type of thing I would be doing like political opinion writing and writing with a global perspective. There is also an interesting sounding session on the gender and race issues generated from the current presidential campaign. In addition there will be sessions on building traffic and syndication and promotion. And advertising. Can’t forget that. And yes, I realize I can’t get to that many sessions, but as you can see there is a lot to learn. I would get my money’s worth out of the registration.

Continuing with the pro, there are opportunities to meet other bloggers. I think they call this “networking”. I didn’t do that kind of thing as a teacher because I wasn’t interested in moving into administration. I don’t consider admin having much to do with real teaching. I had some great bosses, don’t misinterpret, but managing isn’t educating though a really good admin knows how to set up a productive atmosphere and get out of his/her teachers way. Networking among bloggers is important. You can learn things from the good ones. I have learned so much from just reading good blogs. Daisyfae and Nurse Myra for instance have taught me the importance of replying to commenters. Julie has shown me that it is possible to mix serious commentary with personal life observations and anecdotes. Meeting bloggers in person and talking about blogs and writing seriously could be even more informative.

Cons? Oh yeah, gotta do that list too.

Being away from Rob for another three days. We will have already spent time apart when I head to Iowa to help my mother out. Rob is going to spend part of that trip up here working – at the plant and on the house. There are reno jobs that are going to create a certain amount of dust, among others things, that an asthmatic like me shouldn’t be exposed to (this could technically be a pro too but time away from the husband is not counted as a positive in my world-view).

There is also the money aspect. It’s not a bank breaker but it is enough money to give pause. Okay yes, it could be considered an investment but an investment in what? Me? To what end?

Hmmm. I have to give this more thought. It would be fun and the bottom line is that learning should be fun. I have never been to San Francisco although in going there it does put the onus on me to try and find time to visit my younger brother now that he has moved down there from Tahoe (that is almost a con).

Has anyone been to BlogHer or is going? Your perspective would be interesting to know.


I am not much of a team tag player which is probably why I never get tagged but I found an interesting MEME on FuelMyBlog that doesn’t require any effort beyond the ability to put links in a post.

Link 1 must be about family

Link 2 must be about friends

Link 3 must be about yourself

Link 4 must be about something you love

Link 5 can be anything you choose

Post your five links and then tag five other people.

1) Family Night

2) Making New Friends

3) Me

4) Rob

5) Jasper

Normally I would tag Steven Spielberg but he’s got a premiere coming up at Cannes and probably just doesn’t have time, and Angelina and I are on the outs ’cause she doesn’t have much by way of a sense of humor these days (preggie with twins will do that to you). Since Oprah can’t admit she reads me (because it would cause a run on this site, overwhelm WordPress and make other bloggers jealous), and I really shouldn’t be name dropping anyway, I will call upon some of my trusted companions in blogging: Rob, Pammy, Girl, Uncle Keith, and Daisyfae. However, anyone can play (or not) as the moment moves them. If you do, don’t forget to post a link here for all to enjoy.