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The Honeymoon is Over


Last Thursday was a day of rushing madly around and being distracted while I was attempting to be where I needed. Even so, Rob and I managed to find time to sit down to lunch. Without much exception we eat lunch together every day. Probably one of the reasons I can’t get back into a size eight. I have never eaten lunch in my life! My adult life anyway. Digression aside, we didn’t really have the time Thursday for a proper lunch connection where we could chat and relax. Not that lunch is leisurely. I have Kate to get to kindergarten and he has just a thirty minute lunch break. Regardless, we sit as a family and eat. All three meals.

As a result, I have become that parent whose child is never on time for school.

“How did you get to be the tardy mom?” Read Full Article

Reasons to Vote Republican in November is the Monday Meme


 

While I think that pretty much sums up the reasons to continue the Republican strangle hold of the last 30 years, what do you think?

Today’s meme is to share thought provoking or just plain amusing campaign ’08 videos, bumper stickers, jokes, quotes or just to rant and rave about government as the spirit moves you. Right here in the comment box or leave a link. 

Have a great Monday!

Father’s Day


As we were preparing Rob’s carb-laden breakfast in bed tray this morning, Katy diligently prepared the card she’d picked out for him, a Transformer theme with Optimus Prime on the front that said “Transformer, unite.”, or something like that.

I had written out what she wanted to say on another piece of paper and she copied it proudly.

I love you Daddy.

I had checked with her first on whether it was to be “Daddy” or “Rob”. She mainly calls him Rob but there are more and more instances of her addressing him as Dad or Daddy and she mostly refers to him that way.

She wanted to go with daddy.

“I need to practice saying daddy,” she told me.

Interesting. A few months ago she’d resolved to call him “Poppi” like Dora the Explorer does with her father. That really went nowhere. Now it is dad and with Jordan living at home again for a while, I don’t doubt that her calling Rob dad all the time will speed up Katy’s processing a bit more.

People who know our story – Katy’s and mine – like family and close friends – are thrilled that she has a father. They don’t seem to think that I have pushed Will, Katy’s biological father, out of the picture by allowing her to form a father/daughter relationship with my new husband. They see it as a win-win. I have found love and contentment and Katy has a father who loves her.

Given my own state of being as an adopted child, I don’t understand the whole “biology” thing. I have talked about this before. The people who love and care for you are family. The people who raise you are your parents. Biology is not a guarantee and its worship in our society leads to the devaluing of families who fall outside the “norm”, leading children who don’t have biological ties to their parents feeling “less than”.

I remind Katy still from time to time – and she me – how lucky we are to have had first Will and now Rob in our lives. We talked a bit about Will today at lunch. He liked to cook and she found this very interesting. She hasn’t forgotten him and is unlikely to do so. Both Rob and I keep Will very much alive for her through the wall of photos she has in her bedroom and our willingness to discuss him.

She isn’t the least bit confused and her early conflict has faded into an acceptance that this is just how our lives are. Children are much more capable of an expansive heart and an open mind than we adults are, I think.