I removed a blog from the rolls at the request of an anonymous poster who didn’t get the whole “journey thing” that bloggers in her opinion fall back on to explain away their sometimes too distorted by self-perception posts about the events and people in their lives. The commenter arrived here via my post about Dooce, a blogger who makes her living “exploiting” her life and the people in it. Or at least I think that is how my unknown commenter saw it. From his/her comment, I got the feeling that he/she had an up close and personal introduction to reality blogs via a relative. And not a pleasant one. For this reason, my own extended family has not been introduced to my blog. Although I don’t think they would find it objectionable, I am pretty sure there are things about me that they would rather remain in blissful ignorance about and that would suit me as well. However, my husband reads my blog. My friends – from real life – have all been introduced to it. My stepdaughters know about it and at least one of them has read it on occasion.
The objectionable blog was Mommy Needs Coffee. I found it on the roll of another blogger from my widow rolls, I think. I didn’t do much more than scan the front-page and she seemed to be just a mommy blogger. The commenter objected to a t-shirt the blogger was wearing that stated if you wronged her, she would blog about the transgression and the transgressor. I think that was probably meant tongue in cheek, but since I have experienced some personal attacks via other web venues, I can see where the commenter might find that upsetting. Especially if he or she had a bad experience at the hands of a family member. I told this person I would remove the link and I did. Afterwards, I went back a read a bit of the blog. I didn’t find it objectionable or mean-spirited. It was written for comedic affect certainly but that was about the extent of it. Oh, and yes it was a blog gone big time. I have linked it here in this post in case anyone wants to check it out but I won’t add it back to the roll. However, I won’t be taking any more blogs from the roll nor will I answer posts about any blogs I have posted or might link in the future. If someone finds any of my links not to their taste, they shouldn’t bookmark that site and if they choose to unlink me – that’s okay too. As a former English teacher, I don’t think much of censoring for any reason. It smacks of holier-than-thou high handedness and it never leads anywhere good. As the saying goes “If you close your eyes, the sun don’t quit shining for anyone but you.”
anniegirl1138 
Thank you for the apology. No harm done. I appreciated your email. Thank you very much.
Sorry Jenn, confused you with someone else at the time and couldn’t access you site for a refresher.
Being the pot or the kettle is such an embarassment on one’s on blog.
I find this whole post interested and rather humorous. I am guessing neither of you have ever actually read my blog.
Personally, I don’t mind you taking me off of a blogroll seeing as the people I want reading my blog are the ones that want to be there and be a part of the community I have built.
“Frankly”, if you are offended, feel free to email me. And anyone else asking if I have ever hurt someone with my blog. (BTW, the answer will be no. I don’t do that.)
Loved the pot/kettle scenario here.
Great entry about jumping to conclusion based on nothing. Thanks for the link and the traffic!
Have a super great day.
No, I did do it for you. I said in my reply I would, so I did. Had you not wanted me to do this, you could have declined to name the blog as I didn’t know which one it was.
In my post about Dooce I know I stated that she is the kind of blogger who makes a living at this because she is willing to expose herself. And yes, everyone in her life is exposed as well but most bloggers take some care with the people they cherish to shade them or simply not write about them. But, I am curious. Why ask me about this? I am hardly the most out there blogger and I don’t know you personally. If the Mommy Needs Coffee woman is offensive, then why not ask her these questions?
Regardless, I stand by what I wrote. You complained to me about someone else. I responded with an offer to remove the link (unseen or read which was my bad) and you took me up on it. I am now stating that I won’t do such a thing again.
I didn’t ask you to unlink it. Your post implies that you did this for me. You did that on your own. You asked me to identify it so I did. My comment was asking you about the fact that given that, as a blogger, you can say anything you want or don’t want about a person and because you can craft your post in anyway you like and unless that person or someone who cares about them chooses to respond, your ‘version’ is the one that is out there. And if you have enough craft, you can do damage. This last post is a perfect example. Holier than though? Excuse me? Three words: pot, kettle, black.