Monthly Archives: July 2007


Rob had to remind me what day it was this morning. I had completely forgotten that today was the fourth. Not that I have become so Canadian in my short tenure here but mainly because I tend to lose track of the days when I am not working. If it weren’t for steady employment over the years, I wouldn’t have been aware of the month, day of the week or even the specific time of day. These are artifices created for the good of businesses  and religions for the most part, I think. 

I haven’t kept up much with the news of late. I know that the ’08 presidential election candidates continue to plague Iowa with their presence and that Hilary now feels secure enough in her manhood to fetch her husband out of the kitchen to join her on the campaign trail. Scooter was predictably pardoned by the President. Enraged liberals bemoaned this latest blow to the constitution at the hands of the current administration, but The Founders wouldn’t have been a bit surprised. They did the best the could at the time but the system they created was, and continues to be, a work in progress. Some generations work harder at improving it than others is all. The boomers are not proving to be hard-workers, at least not for the people, but they have always been a fairly short-sighted and selfish lot. 

People are still dying in Iraq but since it is mainly Iraqis, no one cares much or at least not enough to ask the hard questions and take to the streets when they don’t get answered. Oh, that was a boomer thing, wasn’t it. I guess they can’t take to the streets to protest themselves out of office, can they?

Michael Moore’s latest pseudo-documentary on the secret shame of health care in America is in the theaters. Day late and a dollar short. No one is truly ignorant of the inequities of the system. Those without know the reality too well, and those with enough health care at present are like the people in that story who stand silent as all their neighbors are hauled away because they rationalize that as long as it’s not me, it’s okay. 

Fat people are taking over the country even as  the people who design the clothes they wear try to shame them into slimming down with all sorts of fashions that accentuate their gelatinous bellies and rubbing thighs. The fat know that they are the true inheritors of the earth simply because they are willing to eat more of it and off it, despite the chemicals it contains (and the fact that when they are finally stricken with fat-related diseases their combined weights will crush the health care system for good.)

The U.S. is still not well liked by other countries. They see us as loud, arrogant, hedonistic and stupid. Even Canadians are none too fond of us and given their natural bent towards politeness, this should concern us. If the most easy-going kid on the block thinks you are an asshole, then maybe you really are.

What would the founding fathers think if they could see their country at 230 years of age? Would they be impressed or horrified? I guess that would depend on the individual founder. They were very different men with ideas and ideals that didn’t always match up. They fought, dirty sometimes, and they schemed, dreamed and committed treason against their own government for the independence to build a completely new one. They weren’t saints, so it stands to reason that the country they created would not be a haven for saintly people.  I imagine they would think that there is a lot of room for improvement, but then there always was. 

The fathers created a democracy that flew against the conforming natures of most human beings and for some reason, it worked. Not perfectly then and not perfectly now, but that’s okay. Have yourself a Happy  little Fourth of July.


Normal for Rob and I on a weekend morning is lounging about in our robes, eating a leisurely breakfast, checking out what is going on in the world via our computers and sharing what we find and think with each other. Is that everyone else’s normal too? Probably not. I have long suspected that what the world calls normal and the way people actually live are two separate things. The first is a fantasy perpetrated on us by the self-appointed arbiters of life, and the second is the way things really are and are supposed to be.

There is much talk among the widowed about returning to what they regard as normal life. I guess I was never much of an enthusiast for the idea because my normal before Will died was anything but that, especially when I looked at what most people consider to be a normal life. Even before Will was in the hospice, and the nursing home before that, normal was skewed by his yet unknown to us by name illness. I really have no basis for what is normal married life or normal family life. My own family and upbringing may have been typical for the neighborhood I grew up in, but an alcoholic father makes for a pretty unpredictable family life, and as I grew my younger brother’s drug addiction just made that life more turbulent. Is it normal to lie awake until your little sisters fall asleep so you can push the bedroom dresser in front of the door because your brother threatened to kill everyone as they slept? I am thinking not. Probably not anymore normal than spending Sunday mornings spoon feeding Cream of Wheat to your nearly vegetative husband in a nursing home while your two year old looks on.

What is normal? Is it one of those eye of the beholder things? Or does it really even exist at all? Is it perhaps one of those middle class ideals they sell you through TV shows and movies? I am not too concerned about whether or not my life is normal these days. It is what it is. And mostly what it happens to be is pretty darn good. But it was no accident or lucky break because I don’t really believe in those things anymore. Life changed because I did and continue to do so. I chose not to wait for the day I was happy again and went looking for it. 

Today while my handsome husband is at work, I will tackle the household chores and rearrange furniture, in a likely vain attempt to make sense of the blending of stuff, and then take my daughter to her first day of kindercamp. Normal enough? I think so.



On the way into The Fort yesterday for the Canada Day celebrations, Rob pulled off into a canola field to answer nature’s call. I am beginning to take this in stride. I have certainly “seen” many an example of public urination in my time here to just chalk it up to the culture. Peeing at the side of the road, whether discretely as my love manages or with complete disregard as his best man showed when he  pee’d in the face of oncoming traffic on our caravan back from Jasper, is just a Canadian thing.

Knowing my fascination for the topic, Rob pointed out a news story in the Journal about the problem of drunken pub patrons relieving themselves in the doorways and alleys on Edmonton’s popular Whyte Avenue. Disgusted and in the hopes of stemming the tide, so to speak, business owners in that area are investing their own money in open-air plastic urinals. Three of these urinals, which can accommodate four men at a time, are going to be set up on the weekend nights in the busy club district downtown. Even though they will provide privacy to those seeking relief (something I am assured isn’t actually necessary in cases of emergency, drunkenness or a combination thereof), their backs will be exposed to those walking or driving by. In the interest of fairness, and to keep some desperate woman from attempting to use the urinals no doubt,  outhouses are also going to be provided.

You might be wondering if I have attempted to make the outdoors my personal potty again since coming here, and the answer is no. My husband is quite considerate and always manages to find me a sheltered facility  even if it is nothing more than an enclosed hole dug in the ground as rest area

facilities are in Saskatchewan. My daughter has yet to enjoy the wind on her bum as well. Although both Rob and I have mentioned to her the possibility of such a thing when we camp this summer, the look she has given us and her camel-like bladder lead me to believe that she has not assimilated to this point yet. 

Assimilation. And I thought it would be just getting used to French on the labels and signs.