Comments for anniegirl1138 http://anniegirl1138.com Just another weblog? Mon, 04 Jun 2012 05:09:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ Comment on How Do You Know If a Widower Is In Love With You by Ann http://anniegirl1138.com/2011/08/04/how-do-you-know-if-a-widower-is-in-love-with-you/#comment-11736 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 05:09:53 +0000 http://anniegirl1138.com/?p=8047#comment-11736 The important thing is that you can discuss things. Communication is key. And the next time he asks you what you need – tell him because a relationship can’t be one-sided. You both need to be able to express your feelings, ask for what you need and not be afraid that doing so will be a deal breaker.

I agree that there is a time factor, but when a widowed person engages in a new relationship, he/she doesn’t get a pass on being present and putting his/her new partner’s needs forefront. It’s actually one of the signs of readiness for dating really. If you throw the “widow card” a lot, you might not be ready. It’s really not fair to ask your new love to wait on you while you “get over” things. And the reality is that you are never okay with having been widowed. You simple make up your mind to move on and build a new life.

I hope things work out as you hope.

]]> Comment on How Do You Know If a Widower Is In Love With You by Eva http://anniegirl1138.com/2011/08/04/how-do-you-know-if-a-widower-is-in-love-with-you/#comment-11734 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 04:11:25 +0000 http://anniegirl1138.com/?p=8047#comment-11734 Thanks, Ann. He keeps telling me that he wants me to feel secure in out relationship. Also, he aksed me once what I needed to feel that way. This could be the answer. I also realize that we both need time. Take into account that it’s been only one year since his wife passed away so suddenly.

]]> Comment on How Do You Know If a Widower Is In Love With You by Ann http://anniegirl1138.com/2011/08/04/how-do-you-know-if-a-widower-is-in-love-with-you/#comment-11733 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 00:14:38 +0000 http://anniegirl1138.com/?p=8047#comment-11733 It’s important for you to be able say how you feel and to feel secure in his feelings before taking any steps, I agree. You should not feel like you have to walk on eggshells and should be able to say “I love you” and plan for a future without worrying if he is going to change his mind.

Eight months is a long time and it’s not, depending on the circumstances and personalities. Some ppl move quickly. Some are more careful.

However, you are right to question his evasive answer to your direct question about how he feels. Men who are sure seldom give replies like that, but, again – it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or that he won’t someday love you. There are people who simply don’t express their feelings verbally. It’s up to you to decide if you can live a life like that.

If you are content waiting for him to catch up to you, there is nothing wrong with that.

]]> Comment on How Do You Know If a Widower Is In Love With You by Eva http://anniegirl1138.com/2011/08/04/how-do-you-know-if-a-widower-is-in-love-with-you/#comment-11732 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 20:46:44 +0000 http://anniegirl1138.com/?p=8047#comment-11732 We have been a couple for 8 months. I asked him to name what he feels for me. He replied: If I did not feel anything for you I would not be with you for such a long time. Why is it so hard for him to say he loves me? Probably, it is because he does not and he never will. However, I am still trying to give us more time and let our feelings grow. We are making plans for our future together but for me it is crucial to name our feelings before we decide to make the next step (i.e. lving together).

]]> Comment on When Did Being Female Become a “lifestyle choice”? by Ann http://anniegirl1138.com/2012/05/31/when-did-being-female-become-a-lifestyle-choice/#comment-11726 Sun, 03 Jun 2012 00:23:20 +0000 http://anniegirl1138.com/?p=10750#comment-11726 Thanks.

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