Comments on: The Other Side of Sadness -Updated http://anniegirl1138.com/2009/11/28/the-other-side-of-sadness/ Just another weblog? Mon, 04 Jun 2012 05:09:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: “Joy comes, grief goes, we know not how” | anniegirl1138 http://anniegirl1138.com/2009/11/28/the-other-side-of-sadness/#comment-9162 Sun, 28 Aug 2011 03:30:10 +0000 http://anniegirl1138.com/?p=3257#comment-9162 [...] have found the time limits on grieving to be rather arbitary and anecodotal at best. Researcher George Bonnano has found that the vast majority of people, who have no underlying mental health issues, take on [...]

]]> By: Ann http://anniegirl1138.com/2009/11/28/the-other-side-of-sadness/#comment-9044 Sun, 31 Jul 2011 16:19:14 +0000 http://anniegirl1138.com/?p=3257#comment-9044 In my Catholic childhood, purgatory was presented as a stopover. Everyone went there first b/c – of course – no one was good enough to go straight to heaven. I never presented a layered afterlife to my daughter. There was always just heaven – even after I came to a place where I believed that what comes after is probably too complicated and nuanced for religion to wrap a theory around. Consequently, when Dee was told – recently – that she would go to hell if she didn’t believe in Jesus (which she doesn’t) – she calmly informed the person that “hell isn’t real. it is a made up place.”

People need to believe in the eternal soul b/c it makes life seem meaningful and death less scary. Well, most people anyway.

]]> By: Caitlin http://anniegirl1138.com/2009/11/28/the-other-side-of-sadness/#comment-9040 Sun, 31 Jul 2011 04:39:42 +0000 http://anniegirl1138.com/?p=3257#comment-9040 Coming along to this part a bit late, but the flip side of the Christianity coin is that whether faith helps or hurts your healing has a great deal to do with whatvone chooses to believe as well. I believe in a loving and forgiving God, and therefore can take comfort that my father and sister are truly now in a “better place.”. If I subscribed to the notions of purgatory or eternal damnation for those who did not follow a ten-step program in life, I would probably have jad a great deal more diifficulty with the loss of my father and sister.

]]> By: Mea Culpa? Sure, Whatever. | anniegirl1138 http://anniegirl1138.com/2009/11/28/the-other-side-of-sadness/#comment-8827 Thu, 28 Apr 2011 17:57:53 +0000 http://anniegirl1138.com/?p=3257#comment-8827 [...] Back in the day on ye olde widda board, I entered into the arena with some truly hardened battle-axes as I naively sought to point out that attitude counts, resiliency matters and that grieving is really just another life experience. It isn’t personal. It’s doesn’t make you stronger, and it doesn’t come with entitlements attached. You aren’t allowed to wallow or wail at others’ expense. It’s simply not okay. Grief should never be used as an excuse for anything. Call it whatever floats your semantic boat, but please don’t make it a life long affliction – because the research doesn’t back that up. It just doesn’t. Irritating, I know. Who couldn’t use a tragedy with lifetime pity powers? Sadly, the seemingly arbitrary year cut off that society clings to has actual basis in fact. [...]

]]> By: The Truth About Grief | anniegirl1138 http://anniegirl1138.com/2009/11/28/the-other-side-of-sadness/#comment-8441 Sat, 12 Feb 2011 02:00:26 +0000 http://anniegirl1138.com/?p=3257#comment-8441 [...] wasn’t until George Bonnano began his actual research that anyone had bothered to look into whether or not grieving had stages [...]

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